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Three Muscle Men and a Mini



Things happen in the past that would have warranted a fantastic photo. We all take instant photos now but back when I was 27 I didn’t even have a mobile phone. This picture will forever stay in my mind as I call it a ‘Kodak’ (freeze frame) moment.

I owned a yellow mini, just like Mr. Bean! I had three children, twin boys (4 y/o) and a girl (1 y/o). The car was so small that even the umbrella stroller couldn’t fit in the boot, it had to go on the floor inside the car.

I was driving down the road with my three children, when that horrible sound hit my ears. Boom boom boom rattle rattle….no!!!! a flat tyre!!!! The worst time for this to happen, with a car full of kids.

I pulled over, got the kids out of the car and surveyed the damage! I had instructions from my father how to change it but felt ill-equipped to put this into practice then and there with three little ones. Yes it was a ‘little tyre’ but none the less, a tyre! I prayed!! Yikes!!

I looked around, we had parked next to an oval where a circus tent was been erected.  Some men saw my dilemma and three huge, strong, muscle men started walking towards me. This made me smile, prayer answered, help was on its way.

Much to my and the kids amusement, two of the men picked the car up, each end and the third, changed the tyre with the tools available from my boot.
That’s a Kodak moment worthy of any memory!!! Yay!! They saved the day!! They worked as a team, used the right tools and got the job done quickly. Many thanks later, I drove off a happy woman.

In our marriages, we are a team! If the team works together, the job is swift, easy and solutions correct those ‘flat tyres’ just like these three guys!
If the one changing the tyre was using a wrong tool, the other part of the team would have got tired holding that car up. Changing a tyre with a knife would have taken all day! It’s the wrong tool! But with the right tools…it fixed the problem. In our Transformations Course we teach others how to treat us by the way we treat them!

We forget that in a partnership, we are a team.
Using the wrong tools do not work. Blaming. Yelling. Accusing. Intimidation. Impatience.  Name calling. Intolerance. Lies. And many more…
These wrong tools will only destroy the partnership.

The tools that do work are. Love. Patience. Grace. Respect, Forgiveness. Listening. Encouragement. Trust. Understanding and many more.

We already have those tools inside of us. We know what is right.

Matthew 5:13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.

14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

Jesus says we are the salt and light of the world. Salt brings flavour, healing, preservation. If we use the tools that work, our team will be healthy.

1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

My kids watched every move of those men. And the same happens in our team building. They are watching the good and the bad. And quite often imitating what they see. Words are powerful. They can destroy or build up. Choose them wisely.

Don’t try to change a tyre with a knife. It doesn’t work!